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But to me, all of these things seem like slapping a band-aid on the gaping flesh wound where your heart used to be: You have to be patient. I know, that sucks to hear, but the only way around it is through it.
Relationships form the basis of meaning in our lives. And not just your interpersonal relationships, but even the relationships you have with your job or your identity or your possessions. But because humans rely so much on our social lives to survive and thrive, our relationships with each other carry an extra special weight.
Therefore, when you lose a relationship, especially one that was so important and central to your everyday life, you lose that associated meaning. And to lose meaning is to lose a part of yourself. So all of these things are intimately connected — your relationships, your sense of meaning and purpose, and your perception of who you are. That feeling of emptiness we all feel when we lose someone we love is actually a lack of meaning and lack of identity.
There is, quite literally, a hole inside of ourselves. But the hard pill to swallow here is this: Surrounding yourself with people who truly care about you is probably one of the most common pieces of advice for getting over someone.
In order to restore that meaning through reconnecting with people, however, you need to make it about more than just you and your past failed relationship. Yes, you need time to vent and to figure things out, and having someone there for that is helpful.
Another way to separate yourself from your past relationship and move on is to take an objective look at what the relationship was really like. We should be together forever! First, we tend to see the past through rose-colored glasses. The truth is, our memories are pretty shitty , and we often only remember the things that fit into whatever story we want to believe right now.
Toxic relationships only ever survive on drama, and as the drama ramps up to keep the relationship going, you become dependent on that drama , or even addicted to it. You start thinking that irrational jealousy or controlling behavior or dickish and snide comments were somehow actually signs of their undying love for you.
There seems to be some debate out there about whether or not you should take some time to yourself and just be alone for a while.
I think you should, and doubly so if your failed relationship was a toxic one. Rushing out to find someone to fill that void without really figuring out what you want and what you need see below is a recipe for recurring relationship disaster. So one of the best things you can do is figure out who you are, what you need, and how to get those needs met. And to truly know that, you have to figure it out on your own. Relationships end when someone decides the cost of not getting their needs met is no longer bearable.
We all have these needs in our relationships, but we all prioritize them a little differently. And disproportionately valuing one need over the others often causes issues in our relationships that might even develop into long-term patterns.
That said, there are a few books out there that I regularly recommend to people. Relationships can be complicated and difficult. But few people know that there are some pretty clear signals to know if a relationship is going to work or not.
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In those situations, it is best to smile, politely say hello, and talk only as much as you can take. There is no need for you to interact beyond pleasantries, especially if it is going to cause you mental anguish or an emotional outburst.
Spare yourself and those around you by simply saying, "It was nice to see you," and walking away. If the two of you are participating in something together, divide up duties. If you are both working at a table for an event, for example, have them go out into the crowd and draw people in while you stay and man the table.
You do not have to stay involved in a conversation with someone you do not like, but you should not simply blow them off. Politely excuse yourself from the conversation by letting that person know that you have other matters that also need your attention at that moment. I have some pressing matters that I need to take care of. Making up excuses might seem like the easy way to get out of conversation or social obligation with this person, but lying is not only improper, it creates a burden for you since you have to remember the story and possibly create further fabrications.
Avoid lying and instead be polite but honest when speaking with this person. This is both disrespectful to the other person, and may encourage them to come around later trying to engage you. Instead of making false promises, simply stop your statements short.
Alert an authority figure. If your dislike of this person comes from them antagonizing or displaying potential harmful behavior toward you, do not be afraid to stand up for yourself. Let an authority figure know, whether that be your teacher, your boss, or the police, if necessary. Try to stick to facts and accounts of actions as much as possible. If you regularly encounter this person and worry about potential further harm through extended contact, request to be put in a situation that involves little to no contact with this person.
This may include transferring desks, shifting part of your job duties, or moving to another class. Remember your own value. If you do not like a person because they disparage you or put you down, remember that this individual is expressing a personal opinion, not stating fact.
Remind yourself of your own value and worth, and allow your positive thoughts to replace their negative input. List not only the items, but why they are important and how they help you in your daily life. If this person is antagonizing you over something they know is a larger issue in your life, you may want to seek professional assistance such as therapy to help you deal with not only this person but your matters in a healthy way.
If an antagonistic person tries to talk to you, make plans with you, or in any other way engage with you, do not be afraid to tell them no. If this person occupies a position of power in your life it may seem difficult to get away from them, but know that you always have the option to tell them no or remove yourself from the situation.
Use small talk around people you don't like. Not Helpful 0 Helpful 9. If they follow you or talk to you, politely end the conversation or ask close friends to pull you away if they see talking to the person you don't like. Not Helpful 3 Helpful Remain polite in your daily interactions, but try to limit your time around them. You do not need to like them, but remember that there is no need to be cruel or aggressive toward them simply because of your personal distaste.
What do I do if someone has spread rumors about me liking someone that I actually don't like at all? You can simply clarify that these are just rumors, and that the truth is you really do not like that person. Show interest in someone else or pretend you are in relationship with someone if simply saying the rumors aren't true doesn't work. Say you need a few minutes and leave the scene to collect yourself. Return and talk about what's upset you when you're sure you can control your temper.
Not Helpful 2 Helpful 9. Try to show him you don't like him by visibly treating him differently and discussing who you actually like with him. Make an example of the bully right there, in the moment, and let them know their citizenship grade has just been docked for the term. A child should always feel that there is an adult that they can go to who has their back.
Bullies and mean kids rely on the victim NOT telling an adult. This is what gives them power. Why would I ever relinquish my responsibilities as mom to a teacher, bus driver, counselor, etc.? God gave my child to me, not to them. Kara this is my 25th year teaching and I have 2 children of my own, one in college and one in high school. I would want anyone to speak to my own children if they were mistreating someone. I think you are the one who is wrong. I believe we All need to stand up to bullies, as a model for our children as well as to teach bullies it is not acceptable.
I think she handled it beautifully, in an age appropriate way. It is my job to protect my students as well as any other child I see being bullied. Just like I would stand up for any child being abused by an adult. How sad that you did not believe in this as a teacher. You cannot teach your own child to stand up for what is right, while not doing so for them.
I miss the days when people had respect for authority and elders were authority. Most parents do not enjoy a verbal reprimand from another adult. However, I see a need for exactly this time and time again. The problem may never be resolved and the child will lose faith at a young age in authority and justice. Someones mom had an issue with a kid they went to their parents. The parents then took care of it. Talk is cheap if it works if not certainly move to the coach and parents.
Maybe this mean kid will have learned from the situation and turned a new leaf. If you , I, or the teacher never say anything to bullys who will!? I will approach any child, parent, person, animal or whatever to keep my child safe! From mental or physical harm. My daughter is very respectful and loves no matter who or what you are! I wish more people would speak up when people are not being nice to each other.
Thus my respectful disagreement. So no one else has the ability to correct a mean kid than an educator? That sounds very elitist and entitled. I disagree with your stand against an adult not speaking to a child. That child had no father and the mother was only protecting her child. All she did was threaten to tell the school or the parents. What is so wrong about that???
Kara, I understand what you are saying. We all have preferences on how to raise our kids. Not always because they are mean but because they are kids Kids have so many activities these days and are away from their parents more often than not.
I think that we owe it to each other and society to step up when needed. I think the Golden Rule can and should be taught by everyone.
I am sure there were teachers, coaches, referees and plenty of parents present who heard the child and did nothing which is very common in schools now days.
I would have stood up for my child and evidently it helped not only her child but the bully. I too am an educator and a mother of 4. And yes I have threatened to go get some parents when behaviour has escalated too far. I have treated them in the same way I hope someone would treat my child in my absence and they are showing behaviour that is unbecoming to what we expect of our children.
Turning a blind eye to a child who needs help or intervening when another child is being cruel to another is ludicrous advice. As soon as it happens in front of me…the responsible adult, it became my business… the second it happens to MY CHILD…I will make no excuses for how I handle their protection.
Obviously I would not harm the child in question but informing them of consequences and desired behaviour are completely appropriate ways to deal with it.
They are kids…they are learning and it is the adults around them whose job it is to teach them what will and will not be tolerated. I would seriously rethink what you would do if a child is being bullied in front of you or hurting your child.
Seriously what is the world coming to? She was absolutely right to hold this kid accountable because obviously no other adult was going to. It is our job as adults to look out for ALL children like it or not. At least she did it calmly and respectfully. Bullying only exists because it is tolerated and too slowly responded to in the home and at school. Weany parents and teachers produce weany kids with weak minds that the devil uses as his playground! I agree with the choice to confront the mean kid- you did so in a nice way.
One comment mentioned they disagreed with this, that you should have gone to the parent. In my experience with dealing with mean kids, most of the time the parent would do nothing and proclaim that their child would never do anything like that, thus the mean kid would continue. As the only advocate for your child, you need to do what is best for them in each and every situation. That means calling those kids out. Show them we care about what they are doing.
But, of course, we should be even quicker to tell them when we see them performing good deeds. Sometimes we need a jolt to realize what we are doing is not acceptable, so we can correct it and learn from it. Kara I disagree you are part of the problem not addressing the child or parent. These girls were mean horribly mean. My mother finally had to threaten a Law suit on the school before they took action on these girls but the damage had already been done to my confidence etc.
I will not put up with the behavior or subject my daughter to the hell I went through as a child in school. I must say that I respectfully disagree with you to a point. I too am an educator, with 4 children of my own, one of which has high functioning autism.
However, if no one else stepped in to put a stop to it, then I think the mother had every right to intervene. But that was not the case. If one of my children were to behave in that manner, and I were not there to deal with it, I would hope that another parent would step in and put a stop to the situation. Some kids will not have anyone correct them, and things that are unheard cannot go unaddressed. If a parent is there, talk to the parent, if not talk to the kid.
Respect is something that kids are not familiar with today. So disagree with you on her speaking to the child. She behaved in an adult manner without bullying the mean kid. It takes a village and the more we all work together with kindness and respect the better all of our children will be and we can hopefully help raise a better generation of adults. I would like to reply bc as a fellow educator and speech pathologist for 20 years as well…you would not be acting as an adult to not inform a child that they are being cruel, mean or causing harm to another child, animal or adult.
There is no social law or secret that should discourage adults informing and modeling in an appropriate tone and manner. I would always take the stance that mean children and misguided children and victims -require those of us over 18 to be adults.
Although this can be hard and maybe make some people uncomfortable I believe the bredth of research and current education push is to intervene, appropriately. It is our human obligation. Mcevoy has 25 years research unspderscoring the need for adults to intervene. On the adults part.
But a parent should not intervene or give guidance to another persons child when they have caused hurt and upset? I am now 32 and very well liked and respected by my peers, superiors and subordinates. I will raise my children to have the same. I am not trying to personally attack anyone. Children need to be accountable for their behavior so they can learn to admit when they are wrong. I too, am a mother of two grown children and an educator for more than 20 years.
I can see your point—it possibly could come across as an adult trying to bully a child. However, I think there is a wonderful lesson in an adult going and talking to a child.
It immediately places the child in a learning situation, and if the adult speaks respectfully and specifically to that child, the child then learns how to act like a responsible adult. This child with the mean behavior hopefully learned this. Approach the child from the standpoint that you want to teach the child, not have combat with the child. When I was about four years old, older children told me to go up to the next black woman I saw and say,. Not knowing that it was a mean thing to do, I said it to the next black woman I saw.
Instead of going up to my mother and telling her what I did, she spoke face to face with me. She shook her her head and said,. Her words and her sad look, are forever blazen in my mind. I am so grateful for that woman teaching me that day that my behavior was unacceptable. If bullying continues, a parent should say something either to the bully or their parent. Sometimes letting a child learn a few protective tactics empowers them and gives them confidence to dare protect themselves.
I do feel that my child should not be a mean kid…ever. But taking some brat down can do a lot of good. I raised nine children so am speaking from forty years of raising children. My father was a principal for 34 years, I was certified to teach never taught, the money was hardly worth the crap teachers have to put up with now as well and to me, this situation was the perfect example for a mom to step in.
Maybe it depends on your community, but thankfully our community welcomes parenting as a village. To let any negative behavior go on and NOT say anything is doing an injustice to both children. They would make notice of the bullies and confront them, as well as their parents yay parent teacher conferences. Many times the parents are not aware that their kids are jerks to others, and many times those issues actually never get worked out.
Bullies in grade school grow into high school, then adult bullies. I know this is an old post, but what a horrible perspective!!
This is my child and no one, no matter what age they are, are allowed to hurt him like that. I think society has become far too lazy with adults on their cell phones instead of teaching moral conduct to their children. I totally agree with JB. It is not appropriate for the mother of a 12 year old to confront a child in that manner. The mother had no business talking to that child that way.
She is an adult, and that child- mean or not- is just a child. I would have to respectfully disagree with you. Especially by approaching the child who is being mean. If not how does that child ever learn his actions are not acceptable.
And then of course you talk to your kid as well after. I believe she handled it wonderfully well. But i would like to know what u would do in a situation that happened to me recently….
My son is currently dealing with a Mean Kid on the bus. He came off the bus close to tears the other night because the Mean kid was mocking him and calling him a snitch. My son told a grown-up that another child on the bus was being bullied by this little tyke monster and the bully found out, now his rage is directed at my child.
Turns out the Mean kid has a mean mom. Of course, he does. Well, done, Mom…you are raising a great kid. Morality and character is more important traits than anything. Sometimes telling an adult makes the situation worse, but if the other students stand up for the one being bullied, it changes the bully and protects the innocent.
Her mom found me and scolded me. I knew I was wrong and I was impressed that she dealt with me directly instead of going to mom. It me feel more responsible for my actions. There is a bully at the playground where my husband takes the kids. No one speaks to him.
He seemed to change his behavior immediately and change his behavior when my husband is near. IMO adults should correct children when they hear or see bad behavior. Is it ongoing abuse?
If so, intervention after the fact is called for. Seems like you could have just told both boys that they are supposed to be on the same team and need to work things out or others would get involved.
Great first step advice! We had a couple kids from the same family bully one of mine. Boy did we have more tears privately at home. I tried one more time with the mother and she said my kid was too sensitive. So we just quietly left the group it was a small homeschooling group and made up most of our social life. I and my children learn so many painful lessons from this, including the fact that homeschooling social life is not any better than anywhere else!!
I am still somewhat cautious and gunshy from it all, but my kids have totally bounced back and have made great friends in several other circles. So proud of them! And if I witness something sooner, I impart wisdom and intervention sooner, rather than letting the problem become cancerous. Either way, the old advice to speak up respectfully now before problems get worse is tried, true, and the best way to go in my book!!!
Kara, by not saying anything to a bully is only making the problem worse. It takes a village- as an educator, you should know that. The author did exactly the right thing. When my son which is now grown was in the 2nd grade he had another boy twice his size punching him and calling him names all the time. After my son came home with bruised arms and a bruise on his cheek I asked what happened to him. He finally told me about what had been going on for months.
When I see the boy hitting my son, I am going to take the kid to the wood shed even if it means my going to jail! Once I was at a ball game where my middle school daughter was performing on a dance team. After the whole situation came to light, there was a logical explanation and, thankfully, she apologized for overreacting but my child was still in tears and reeling from her outburst.
My granddaughter is being bullied in school by a mean boy she is 12 he says stuff to her like you know you have aids and one-day you will die from it or you sleeping with every guy in your class.. Sandy, to be honest, I have never read your blog until today. I can not express how dead on you are and pin pointed how this Jesus loving Mom feels. My son is 12 and is smart and talented, not athletic at all.
He gets picked on constantly and we have often fought the battle of dealing with the mean kid. I have also confronted a mean kid on his behalf. It was enough for that particular mean kid. I often find myself having the same talk you had with your son.
Always, be a representative of the King you serve. Thank you for your heart and post! Thank you so much for this! My daughter is picked on and has been for years by the same kids. I told her that is fine, give them the benefit of the doubt but by no means do I want her to be friends with them and stand by while they are mean to other kids.
That was a few weeks back. She is no longer friends with this girl because she and her little crew in 4th grade decided to pick on another kid. I am going to read her this when she gets home. Nowhere in the bible does it say that jesus was perfect. This article started great and took a cap turn. I did not blame Satan for every bad person. And the Bible calls Satan the Father of Lies. So, yes, I blame, Satan for the lies. I was going to explain it to him but I doubt he would comprehend that either.
People really need to read the book before they try to make presumptive comments about it. Way to go Sandy. Scripture does not lie. I have a daughter who has been tormented all through highschool and some of the lower grads. We have gone to school with it with out a lot of help from staff. She has scars from it. This year she will graduate frome high school and she is so happy about that. She has problems with her peers great with younger kids.
She got all A,s one her report card this quarter,and she is main streamed in regular class rooms except math she needs help in just to stay on task.
Did you read the entire article or stop at that point? If you had continued to read, she just stated that that is the voice in his head and not to listen to it.
I thought this article was dead on. Well written and done! He was not born perfect; he grew into His divine perfection. But when He began His ministry, He was a perfect Man. April, Which translation is this? I have searched over and yet have it say what you wrote above. Here are some examples of Luke 2: But his mother treasured all these things in her heart. His mother held these things dearly, deep within herself. And Jesus matured, growing up in both body and spirit, blessed by both God and people.
JC, I think you are asking where April got the second half of her comment and I think that was her comment after the verse. When will people stop blaming satan and start taking responsibility for themselves? Just my 2 cents. Well, I want to know when will people stop taking words in this post out of context and actually read the entire thing before thinking that I blamed Satan for the behavior of anyone????
I had to talk to you in the same tone as you talked to me to show you how immature that sounds. Anyway, Please read the post again. The whole world does NOT hate him just because kids pick on him or make fun of him or exclude him or whatever.
The Bible calls Satan the Father of Lies. When he lies, Jesus said, he is speaking his native language. So, the originator of that lie—of all lies—is Satan. And, did you see that this was one of several things that I said to my son? The only problem I was addressing with bringing Satan into it was the lie that was damaging his self confidence and framing his identity and self-worth. When someones starts thinking like that, he DOES need to change.
Only I believe the change occurs on a spiritual level, with spiritual weapons. Just say that, instead of taking words out of context. What I took from it was WE are all worthy of the love of our King, and it is important that our kids know that. I think the ignorance of some of these posts is absurd and annoying! I truly think this story was an amazing read for parents! I will definitely pass it along to my sisters who are also raising young kids. For example, some kids have killed themselves because they believed the things mean kids said, and felt like no one cares!
Do you want to model good behavior patterns or bad behavior patterns? The choice is yours. But just remember this, what you teach today is what you have to deal with tomorrow. IF Jesus did sin then that means he died for partially sins sins and not just solely ours. The Mean kids would be gone! Might be the one thing he remembers from now on. She should NOT have bullied him to the other students, but there was nothing wrong with the task he was given.
A very simple exercise to use in illustrating the hurts caused by bullying is this: Have each kid take out a clean new piece of paper. This paper represents a person. Then have them fold it over and crease it a few times. Each crease represents a hurtful comment directed at that person. Then have them scrunch it up into a tight ball. This represents continued bullying.
Then ask them to open it back up and smooth it out. Make that piece of paper a heart shape. Explain that each one of those marks is made when someone is mean. Then, pick it up and ask if anyone wants the money. Of course, everyone you are addressing will want the money. Then tell them that no amount of bullying changes what they are worth to God or to you, for that matter!
I have enjoyed reading all of the comments. If something worked for a certain situation, how can it be wrong to use? Every situation is different. Every one simply gave an example and what the outcome was. Just read and use the ones that fit your situation or your personality. Every way of taking care of a bully is good if the problem is solved. That was a win-win for all. When in a crowd, there is sure to be a witness. When I moved from teaching 1st grade to 3rd, it involved moving to a different part of town.
Most of the time, I asked them what was right or wrong in their behavior and would they like to be treated in that way. The outcome was usually made by them. The biggest problem I had was getting other teachers to take the time to listen to the children. Knowing what to do and say depends on the actions of the 2 involved. Sometimes, I had to bite my tongue and wait until they stopped explaining. Being a kid is even tougher! The thing that works for me is trying to be a good model.
More than likely, it comes from home and how the bully has been brought up. Some parents were not given any guidance. Give your love to others. Be a good example. Share your family to those who need something positive in their life. If we join together, the world can be a better place to live in. Thank you for this post. It might stop him in his tracks. I really hate to be a wet blanket here but as a Christian woman who raised two very intelligent, sensitive, unselfish, loyal children while my husband served in the US Navy, I did my best to coach my children through taunting during little league games and being teased just for the sake of being mean and annoying all the while praying for strength and the right words feeling the pressure of what it is like to parent children alone while my husband was out to sea for six months at a time.
I did not run to his aide. I thought that if Mom showed up in a middle school that he would never hear the end of it. I asked the principal if his band teacher, a man, would mind spending time with our son after the principal assured me that he thought that our son was ok.
I paced the sidewalk until he got off of the bus a few hours later and after talking to him for a few minutes I decided that he needed to be checked for a concussion. The aggressor was sentenced to community service, he had to write a letter of apology and to pay for our medical expenses.
The middle schoolers heard about what happened and most of them started pushing our son around in the hall shoving him into lockers and ridiculing him for the rest of that school year. Our son went from an A student to an F student. We were in hell and no matter what we did we could not pull him out of the depression and anger that sat deep into his heart. Our son did not tell us how bad it got for him for fear that we would do something that would have made going to school even worse on him.
All of this happened about 10 years ago. I am sharing this because I want younger mothers to be wiser than I was. You never know what home life other children have and in what frame of mind they arrive to school in.
I just want to through another teachable moment out there. The world is full of mean kids, yes. The world is also full of kids who have social and emotional disabilities. This mean that is your kid upset my kid, not on purpose, my very sensitive and reaction driven child is likely to pummel your child with hurtful words.
He may even start to push or slap. This is a natural reaction of him and we are working on it. No, of course not. There are also kids with social disorders who are brutally honest. Honest to a fault. Their words can be hurtful but they are still learning. Another complication with social disorders is obsessions. We are still teaching him those. I will be the first tell you that this can be a frustrating trait.
It also causes tension between him and other children. He comes off as a know it all at times. Correcting others and arguing his points without thought of whether or not the other person want to hear it. We can help them adapt and learn but it takes time. A LOT of time. Some understanding would be fantastic. My point is, not every bully is a bully. Do not go to the child.
Because if you are yelling at and correcting this child on a skill they have not yet mastered, you are now the bully. You just cut this child to the core and the parents are left to pick up the pieces. The parents need to handle the corrections. So, you have your teaching moment with your kid and let me have my teaching moment with mine. That is all I ask. Thank you for your response. I resonate with everything you said, because it sounds like my son is a lot like your child.
We deal with all the things you mention here. I often lead him through apologies to other children and adults. In the scenario I described in this post, I had observed the dynamics over weeks of basketball practice and games. Because I normally have to correct MY child, I was closely watching to monitor his behavior and help him blend in the team as much as possible.
There were other kids on the team that followed his lead, no matter what he did. Anyway, it was time for me to step in and say something. And it ended up being the exact right thing, all around. It was awkward and not well thought out, for sure. But in this case, it did end up helping the Mean Kid see his actions were hurtful and that other parents were watching. Thank you for writing this.
It reminds me that we are not alone in trying to help our children deal with mean kids. My son is 13 and in 8th grade. We stopped and changed the medicines as soon as we saw him having trouble. In the meantime, however, he acted out inappropriately a few times. Catholic school kids, nice Christian families… Instead, we found a bunch of text messages from a couple of these boys saying mean things to my son.
His contact with these kids was mainly limited to school from that point on, although they did contact him a few times over the summer and he spent time with them on those occasions. He started school at a different school this fall for 8th grade, and had not seen these kids. My husband dropped him off, and immediately these boys started in on my son. Thankfully, my husband left his cell phone with our son, and he called and my husband went to get him.
This is 5 months after the trouble at school last spring, and they have seen him in between, with no problems.
I was in tears the entire night while at a school event with my younger daughter! There seems to be some debate out there about whether or not you should take some time to yourself and just be alone for a while. I think you should, and doubly so if your failed relationship was a toxic one. Rushing out to find someone to fill that void without really figuring out what you want and what you need see below is a recipe for recurring relationship disaster.
So one of the best things you can do is figure out who you are, what you need, and how to get those needs met. And to truly know that, you have to figure it out on your own. Relationships end when someone decides the cost of not getting their needs met is no longer bearable. We all have these needs in our relationships, but we all prioritize them a little differently. And disproportionately valuing one need over the others often causes issues in our relationships that might even develop into long-term patterns.
That said, there are a few books out there that I regularly recommend to people. Relationships can be complicated and difficult. But few people know that there are some pretty clear signals to know if a relationship is going to work or not.
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