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Before the feminists get all up in arms about submission I just want to say submission is a quality that even you feminists do. It only becomes controversial when Christian women like me want to submit to our God and put it in the context of marriage. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
Guys, you may be in marriage where you want your wife to submit to you. You want her to respect you. You want her to trust you. Let me guess, if you dare bring it up she goes a little loco on you. Her resistance makes it harder for you to take your place as the spiritual head of the family. Instead of a marriage that full of mutual respect and support you are stuck in a power struggle and war of the wills on a daily basis.
How do I know all this? Because it was me and my marriage. That manifested itself in me doing everything so it would be right. I set the table right. I dressed the kids right. I taught the bible stories right. I even told him how to preach right. And if he did it wrong, I was by his side telling him how to do it right.
Are you married to a girl like the old me? Physically, verbally or spiritually. Do you remember what Jesus prayed in the garden before he was led to his trial and crucifixion? It has to be a choice. If you make marriage a competition we will compete.
Applaud her strengths and treat her like your equal. We get judged by our looks or lack of looks our whole lives.
Men stare at our boobs. We get hit on and spit on. We come into marriage with some of our defense armor still intact. We also come into marriage already wounded by the world. We come with emotions bruised. We come with hormones raging. We come under attack from the enemy. Please understand that and be patient. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. Many of us come into marriage feel unloved and unworthy. We believed the lies that backed us into a corner. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church.
He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church.
And we are members of his body. I think it tarnishes the post. I do agree with this article and I think the picture is really just making a dark subject lighter. And the truth is if we are both Christians we both need to have the most respect for the other and be ready to submit to one another. What was said is really not coming from the author but from the Bible only not in quotes. I mostly skimmed first just to see if you justified abuse.
I agree with Jerri-I wish you would change the picture. It brought out a very visceral reaction in me. Thought provoking, insightful, and done in a loving manner…. It is good on many levels…. I am a Christian man. My wife is like that. She dictates where we will eat, what I wear or wont wear, talks back. I cnt hit her and I wont divorce her please pray for us. I am with you brother. I am in the same situation and I feel the same exact way.
WOW, this was insightful, my wife faught me on every decision till our last day together. Not only that, but had to deal with her mom being a priority, and only looked for me to discipline our son.
She would get mad when I initiated any type of discipline towards our son. According to Jesus a man should not divorce his wife. Love her as you love yourself. She will change through your unspeakable love.
Please read the teachings of JESUS in the whole new testament again even the teachings that were taught through other apostles. I ll pray for you. God said that HE will make a way where there is no way.
Jesus said if a man lusted after another woman this is the sin of adultery. It is when this is the reason for divorce, adultery is committed.
The scriptures says the Lord hates divorce so the offending spouse if it be an unsubmissive and rebellious wife would be the main offending party when this forms the basis of the divorce and wile God hates divorce it is sometimes necessary. It takes the too. First, thank you for the author this article, I get to know from a woman perspective of a previously not-so-submissive woman, this is really eye opening.
I dropped into depression multiple times and the thought of divorce came at least a couple hundred times these few years, I even have suicidal thoughts, but I put my trust in Jesus and hold on to every single promise I can find in the bible and keep asking for His mercy, guidance and wisdom to resolve the problematic marriage. Then I requested her to work together as a married couple to please God by doing small baby step like reading the bible and resolving conflicts together.
I realise this is 2 years later but remember something, we do not fight flesh and blood. And our weapons are not carnal. The enemy does not like unity which is what happens when a man and woman are married, they become one. You have authority to tell the enemy to let your wife go. He has no business playing games in her mind. Command it, declare it and have faith. You have not because you ask not. I would like to lovingly disagree with the advice given in this column.
What advice would you give a disobedient rebellious child towards their parents. That should be the same advice to give a disobedient rebellious wife towards her husband. The root cause of an unsubmissive Wife is lack of being taught to respect her husband when she was a child she should have been raised to respect her husband and lack of submission to God and lack of fear of God when she becomes an adult. So the internal heart of an unsubmissive disobedient wife is equivalent to the internal heart a witch.
And from a child they are to be taught to obey and honor their husbands. The fear of the Lord must be placed in the wife. The fear of losing their salvation must be placed in the wife. The fear of dishonouring God must be placed in the wife. Just as the fear of a child who would be rebellious against their parents if they had no fear.
Husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the church. That is going to backfire on A LOT of men. I would encourage you to read the book of Hosea.
God does not deal with an unfaithful wife like a rebellious child. In fact, using the analogy of Hosea and Gomer he does the opposite. The Maker of the feminine heart understands how her heart responds. Her heart responds with tenderness. Also the picture of Christ and his Bride, the church. What a beautiful picture of sacrifice, humility and love.
Luckily, this is not difficult. A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. Women are always being tested…but ultimately, each of us has to define who we are individually and then do the very best job we can to grow into it. You can break down a woman temporarily, But real woman will always pick up the pieces, rebuild herself and come back stronger than ever..
She is sensitive but not touchy. She is kind to all but has discernment. She is confident but not arrogant. She is who I hope to be. A strong woman perseveres regardless of the odds and circumstances. Women want attention, love and care. No matter how strong they are, no matter how dependent they become, no matter how old they become, inside they still want someone who can lead them, control them, show affection to them and protect them.
A strong woman is one who loves deeply, and loves fiercely, her tears flow just as abundantly as her laughter. A strong woman is both soft and powerful. Men, their rights and nothing more; women, their rights and nothing less. She values and uses all of her gifts. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform. Women must try to do things as men have tried. When they fail, their failure must be but a challenge to others.
Who knows she can fall, pick herself up, and go on. Women are like police, they can have all the evidence in the world but they still want a confession….
Life was meant to be lived. Curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life. Then, and not until then, will there be the perfect comradeship, the ideal union between the sexes that shall result in the highest development of the race.
Strong women wear their pain like stilettos. No matter how much it hurts, all you see is the beauty of it. You are a woman and you are beautiful, remember that you are worth loving.
Not a girl and a doll to be played with. I feel bad for all the little girls reading fairy tales about princes who come and save them. A real woman knows how it feels to be hurt and left behind its the strength that keeps them going. The strength of a woman is not measured by the impact that all her hardships in life have had on her; but the strength of a woman is measured by the extent of her refusal to allow those hardships to dictate her and who she becomes.
They are right about this. She is smart, funny and thoroughly charming. Often, after hearing her speak at some function or working with her on a project, people will approach me and say something to the effect of, you know, I think the world of you, Barack, but your wife, wow!
Actually a job is better for me. No man succeeds without a good woman behind him, wife or mother. If he has both, he is blessed twice. She gets both the pleasures of submission and the pleasures of mastery. You may eat me if you like. I'd sooner be eaten by you than fed by anyone else. Lewis, The Horse and His Boy. Even when they say the don't.
There's just something about a beautiful, soft woman looking to them to protect and take care of them that inspires a man to greatness.
His other arm holds me firmly in place around my waist. You have to submit silently. Open up, let go. Let anything penetrate you, even the most painful things. That's the magic key! The text comes by itself, and its meaning shakes the soul You mustn't let scar tissue form on your wounds; you have to keep ripping them open in order to turn your insides into a marvelous instrument that is capable of anything.
All this has its price. They are neither right, nor are they wrong; good nor bad. They are simply passions, a most important part of life. Feel them, fully experience them, surrender to them, and learn to accept them. As a submissive, you must let go. She would have been so glad if she could have been cut to pieces, body and soul, to show what joy this pain caused her.
I mean I really crave this intensely. The thing is I like women who are naturally dominant to the core. The thing is I want a woman who is naturally dominant, but who has a good character.
I have a very good character, I am not conceited, in spite of the things I described above. I am just aware of things, as they are. I truly crave an extremely dominant woman. This is not a curiosity, this is truly what I desire. I am a 45 year old Virgo caucasian guy, entrepreneur, business owner, borderline work-a-holic, very Alpha apparently 1. Stupid I know, but with this one, oh how I did. She actually moved in with me twice in early December and middle of March, but it only lasted a week both times because of suspicions I had and confronted her about.
However, after a week or so of not talking, she has always contacted me again saying she wants to get together. She is everything I want except that her unreliable, independent 25 lifestyle drives me insane. Sometimes I think, why am I miserable without her and she is not if I have everything she needs and can provide for her.
I have what she needs and has said she wants, but she continues to instead opt for living paycheck to paycheck with horrible credit. I have a feeling I know what you are going to say, but I hope not.
And yes I know ignoring her and not hounding her is the only thing that will keep her coming back since we are not exclusive. So far, she comes back every time, but just for a short time each time. Is there any hope to prove in time that I can be a non-needy alpha and lure back this independent goddess? Even an independent 25 year old hot female who was in a year long relationship with her previous ex until last August is going to want to have another monogamous relationship again right?
So if I am currently in the FB circle that she keeps alive after bouts of NC by me, would that possibly mean she will consider moving back in a third time with me if I had some alpha 1. Or felt compelled to comment. Nothing against the author here, but if you found this helpful… you should probably just get off the internet and go spend some time getting to know yourself.
Not intending to be critical or hurtful but jeepers…. Now with so many women today that are very high maintenance, independent, selfish, spoiled, and very greedy, really speaks for itself. Bring back the women of the good old days which definitely were a lot better than today.
I agree with all your classifications, but disagree with the statistics of the distribution of Dominant, Submissive and Independent females. At least, in the Pacific Northwest, where I grew up and still live, the distribution is considerably different.
As well, I come from an East Coast Jewish family and will say the distribution also is considerably different based on that demographic.
I grew up with a very dominating Jewish mother, who I would even go as far as to classify as Dominant Plus. So, as far as the distribution of women in the Seattle area or Pacific NOrthwest, I think this would be more realistic. Seattle probably has the highest number of feminists in the world and has a very Scandinavian like culture, which promotes a more moderate form of Feminism, but still promotes female superiority and looks down on men as inferior and in a negative manner.
However, it is not the militant type of feminism which is more common of East Coast feminists. Now, if you want to look at the break down of the distribution of female types in the East Coast, like Brooklyn and New Jersey where my family is from it would be a completely different demographic. East Coast feminism may not be as institutionalized or overt like in Seattle, but the type of feminism in the East Coast I believe is much more militant and that the demographics of the people result in a much more vigilant or outgoing population.
I feel there are many more alphas in the East Coast, especially among females. Middle America may very well fit the statistics you have better than the two coasts. Also, what is your belief on the Dominant Sub-types I have presented, as dominance can really have quite a range. You should have met my East Coast Jewish grandmother.. After reading all of these…. Westerners could learn a lot from our Eastern brothers. Why so many women respond having to tell you that you are wrong, not realizing the irony and that that classifies them very well in the system that they say you are incorrect in….?
I do it before relationships. I feel disgust when I feel I have bigger balls than them. Either I will not do something that hurts him, either I will. So I expect the same. I am talking about everyday situations. I like to lead some times so I can show him something new or cool or nice or to play awhile.
I do it in the time when we are not planning to see each other. You are a Dominant. A classic, quintessential one who has deluded herself about who she is and what she wants. I strongly suggest you read this. Some vaguely interesting desciptions of personality dynamics in this post. Honestly, your post seems indeed very biased and inflexible. Its a shame, because typologies might be interesting.
I suggest you read some more about different personality theories, e. And also get into sociocultural implications of distribution of gender roles. Women tend to be more dramatic in relationships than men.
You know the answer. I was hoping to inform you that there are women who fit more than one of your catagories seeing as you refer to more then just personality traits. If you include the bedroom it gets more complicated. Seeing as you add three more types submissive dominant and switch. Some alpha females have more testosterone and exhibit some male-like traits. Sexually charged alpha females tend to like to dominate in the bedroom. Independents I would think can swing either way.
Submissives will always be submissive. However, there are plenty of alpha and independent females who can act very submissive for that 20 minute episode of sex and then back to being the dominating brute or the free lifestyle, no non-sense independent woman. Ironically, I have met many dominating women who try to act all sweet and gentle the moment they want to get laid. When you say you are submissive is that just mean submissive in sexual engagement or do you actually give the authority over to the man in every day affairs of life?
I do agree that some women do exhibit hybrid behaviors, but most women I think misclassify themselves, as I feel you are doing.
I am a needy Alpha in search of a normal submissive woman. They are the best for long term relationships. According to this, I would be a former Submissive who has grown into more Independent ways. I have always tended to gravitate towards men that are similar to me, that are cool with how I am. They need to be loyal and making effort, but let me do my own thing without trying to tie me down to standards or rules. So far, so good! This article was quiet funny at some parts and interesting.
I agree with Kimmers! I am an independent but I am submissive at times. Sometimes I submit to needy alpha males, but they eventually become too overwhelming and I cut them off.
Dominant women are addicted to power, but I noticed many are submissive in bed. Does the desire to be controlled turn them on? If they are dominated by someone who does as they wish, are they necessarily considered controlled? They know that categorization is necessary for analysis. Again, I have no problems with Dominants at all. Once the sex is over I could care less what she does with her life.
I almost dated only latinos and arabs in my twenties before to marry a muslim arab. I like to be the property of my male. Their type of strong face and dark eyes, turn me on. They like real women because they are real men. Most women I know are dominants crazy control freak. The dominants women HATE me. They hate me also because the men like me and they are jealous.
Dominants women bitch at me always. They act like I would be idiot and retarded. Dominants women harrass me and could kill me if the murder was legal. A lot of these dominants women are fat and unatractives. They are jealous of me. When they keep a man, they are always complaining.
They look always angry. The whole room became silent…. In fact, I think that all women are like me. All women are submissives and like the same type of men I like. All women like to be dominated in bed this explain the succes of the dumb book and movie 50 shades of grey. All the women are horny for the dominant latin lover and the mediterannean type with black hairs and dark eyes. When I dated latinos the others women wanted to steal my man in front of my face, and the competition to keep these men was horrible as the latinos are cheaters and womanizers in the first place, they liked it.
I know what I want and what turn me on. If she look independent, maybe she is just not into him. Independent women exist only in the movies and the clips of Madonna and Taylor Swift. They are a myth like the unicorns, and the model all women want to be, but they are not. She is not, she is insecure and anxious, and why she act that way. It was like all over me. Independent women really exit.
They dont depend much on others when it comes to happiness. They like living life to the fullest in there own way. They dont prefer getting emotionally attached. They are very optimistic move on go on kind of people.
They dont like to dominate others neither like to be dominated. They do exist and im one of them. I am by all accounts successful, and even though I have friends I tend to be a loner mainly bc I fill my schedule with a lot of different things or I always have some goaI am trying to meet. I am searching for my Alpha. Like you wrote I have tried relationships but I always get bored around the 1 month mark. Their traits should determine what is feminine, or not. Submissive women are definitely weak, and non-entities, in my world view.
So what do you call a woman with all the submissive traits but a high sex drive and is very confident in herself. She also loves her hobbies and is go go go always busy. But make no mistake is a sub and even know she has a high sex drive and is go go go is also VERY loyal to one man. My wife and I have been together 16 years and married for We married young and had two boys young. When we met there was nutty nutty crazy fireworks connection wise sex wise and it was just weird.
I am very much a Alpha but can show a little needy Alpha from time to time. I know my wife very well after 16 years and she is very much a feminine sub. But she never ever has had a headache or been to tired for sex not kidding like ever.
She has a solid sex drive. And she is so go go go. But she has never shown she likes to flirt lots or needs other men sexually at all. Truly she has been the most loyal person I have ever met. Not just to me but to her family and friends as well. So can subs have high sex drives and be go go go.
She told me the high sex drive comes from the fact she get off every time we have sex. Can you make a higher sex drive in a woman due to being better at sex? I use all parts of my body and mouth to make sure she is just as satisfied as me.
I read this article and read the sub part and that was so her. But not the flirting or needing attention from other men. I have to call b. Yes, I completely made them up. But if you want to look at this rationally, then,. Thanks for the reply. Going by your response I clearly hit a nerve. Sorry I hurt your feelings, I tried to present my question with the least amount of insult. Thanks for the compliment though.
Yes, you hit a nerve and hurt my feelings. Although the descriptions of the personalities mentioned in this post frankly seem to do justice to reality, in my opinion the problem is with the terminology. When we call men Alpha, Beta etc, it is like automatically assigning them a value, even if it is just alphabetical Alphas come first, Beta must be therefore less valuable.
And to be honest, I think guys who like to think of themselves as alpha, have a need to undermine this male figure they call the beta dude, just to make themselves feel better. Men who like the company of a long term woman in their life, will probably invest more efforts in building a strong relationship, rather than remaining single for ever. They are the ones who probably will have passed on their genes to the next generation… They are probably the ones who will be strong leaders of their family groups, just like the leader in the pack of wolves if we really must make an animalistic parallel , because they were reliable, emphatic, and trustworthy….
So, maybe calling anyone a Beta is an insult, or has become an insult? People in stable happy relationship have far more sex than players, who have to go out and hunt for someone every week end, were as functioning couples have guaranteed sex at least once a week or more. And they have sex for longer in life: I feel sorry for all those people of our generation who were fed the lie that if you settle down with one person you are the loser. I know so many if them that are now approaching 50 and are bitter, disilluded and alone… Even those men who were expert seducers, and those women who were very successful in acquiring sex with quality males earlier in life.
The ship has sailed!! Even though I must say that with age the appetite for external partners diminishes naturally, having access to variety has kept our sex drive very strong.
But we think that it is vital to establish a ONE bond that is above all others, the one person that you know will be there for you even if you have an accident and your dick falls of, or you become a quadruplegic!
We are there for each other, no matter what, and we have been together for two decades child free, by choice. People have different ammounts of sex drive and I think that if one partner has more sex drive than the other, they should be free to fill the gap with more partners, whether it is the male or the female. I just wish more guys could see and plan ahead, beyond the length of their dicks… And I wish for women to stop thinking they can have it all and for ever, some of your expectations are totally ridiculous!
I think it might be time to stop referring to humang beings on the basis of animalistic pack hierarchy. I think guys who like to think of themselves as alpha, have a need to undermine this male figure they call the beta dude, just to make themselves feel better.
Please Google the stats on this. People in long-term monogamous relationships have very little sex compared to players. The only time people in monogamous relationships have lots of sex is during the first few months of NRE. After that a sharp decline occurs. Thank you for proving my point. I hope you take my conversations as a positive exchange, I am not here to offend you in any way, and you are clearly an intelligent person.
You state that people should not be categorised, but then you also said that some somewhere that people can me more steongly or less dominant but they are still dominant.
One can be a follower in his professional life, an alpha in bed, and a gregarious pack member in their leasure life e. So any of those categories may combine together in the same person. Old fashioned marriage proposed by the church has proven to be a failure, yes I agree with you. But nowadays you can make your union into whatever works for you both, you just have to find the right woman open minded. Sex does slow down after a while, but again, you are just looking at the stats, in a fulfilling union it slows down from 3 times a day to times a week, which I think any men unless he is in his 20s should be happy with.
It slows down with age as well, twice a week is pretty acceptable when you are in your 40s. Blow jobs are one of the greatest joys a woman can give to her man and vice versa and if you are in bed with one that seems repulsed my doing that, you should get dressed and walk, not marry her! A lot of men are now keeping themselves very well physically, because having material resources is not enough to acquire good quality women who are able to obtain resources by themselves.
So imagine yourself, and other sexually attractive men of your age… What hope does a 50 or 60 year old player has to compete against you and your fellow well kept men in their 30s or arly 40s for the attentions of a good quality yo woman? Zero… So what I ment is that the harsh reality will hit men of your generation in the face only once you get to that stage in life and realise that the play field has dried almost up and you have to settle with lower quality women to have any hope ti get laid… Whereas those who settled earlier had a chance to choose higher quality serious relationship women while they men were in the prime of their life.
I admitted that in the comments above. During sex, the rules do change. I think you need to do some more reading around here. I am for long-term, nonmonogamous relationships. Not monogamy, but also not being a player, since neither of those choices work long-term. During the initial dating phase, women LOVE blowing their men.
After they get married too. But over time, starting at about the three-year mark in a monogamous marriage, they start getting turned off by doing that to their husbands.
With a playful spirit, I love to dress up, tease, and tantalize. I am a beautifully voluptuous woman in my early 40s with soft, feminine curves and a youthful appearance. In our last post we talked about the three types of men. Now let’s talk about women. Women are quite different than men, obviously. Sometimes the term “Alpha woman” is thrown around, but it’s not quite accurate. Instead, a woman is either a Dominant, Submissive, or an Independent. These. SUBMISSIVE MALE - SUBMISSIVE STORIES. The start of my submission. She stood 5'6", with very thick shoulder length dark brown. Her green eyes, not only showed her .